It has been over five and half years since my divorce. I have taken the time to heal, get to know myself, discover life and what that means to me. What I want my life to look like and how to I become the best version of myself.

That journey, yes I said journey because it definitely is that, was difficult, sad, exhausting, a struggle, but on the other hand it was also wonderful, relieving, rewarding and insightful.

I have discovered things about myself I didn’t even know was there. Being single was the best blessing that I have been given, after my ex-husband asked me for a divorce for the last time January, 10th 2012 at 10:30 am. Yes, I said the last time, because he would also bring it up in every disagreement, argument or what ever you want to call it.

I thought that there was something wrong with me, yes I did something wrong, but never intentional, after being told so many negative thing, being forgotten and mistreated you start believing it, but mentally I fought it, but most of the time I let it win because I thought that maybe I was overreacting, that I was thinking about things the wrong way. My husband (at the time) wouldn’t tell anything that would be bad for me right?

I’ve learned that if someone doesn’t love them selves, love is not in them, so there is no way that he can love me. But my friend, you have to have self love to be able to identify that.

Self love is the key.

Finding love with in will allow you to identify Love.